Sexual Assault Awareness Month Day of Action

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Sexual assault is something that should not occur. It does exist however. In fact, the majority of women are sexual assault survivors at some point in their lives.

Whether they will admit it, or not. Many don’t recognize the abuse when it happens, or even later.  They explain it away.  Which is called Stockholm Syndrome. And a variety of other conditions play a role in the refusal to recognize the abuse. Including being conditioned to think it is normal behavior.

It doesn’t usually just happen  In most cases, there is sexual harassment before the assault. That may begin moments before, or years before the assault. If only moments before, the victim is more likely to recognize the danger. Especially if the person is a stranger. Though they may not have a chance to escape (jobs, shopping, medical care).

However, often, sexual assault begins in childhood, by people known to the child, and often, their family.  The sexual harassment begins with touches, and comments that seem typical, and acceptable behavior between often the adult and a child.  Spread out over years, people don’t notice the escalation of behaviors, like they do when the harassment is skipped.

Although it should not exist, it does.

I’ve written two books on the subject of surviving sexual assault and other forms of abuse.  Both books delve into multiple stories as to why it occurs, how it is hidden, and how the minds of survivors may work.  As no two cases are identical, no two survivors have the same outcomes.  Some realize they are victims and try to escape.  Others refuse to accept that they are victims, and may even stay with their abuser for life.  Most, fall somewhere in between on a continuum of surviving sexual assault.

Bending the Bars

Laws currently protect #abusers. Survivors abandon children, condemning them to worse abuse. Ruby’s Law is a weak start, a chance to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors. Legal limbo, safe from #abusers, surrounded by other survivors, little hope of full recovery. Few make it beyond the bars where Ruby’s Law protects #Survivors and their children. #StockholmSyndrome #Abusers stalk. #DomesticViolence #PTSD #CoDependency https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5X https://books2read.com/BendingtheBars

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice

Mistie Jolin repressed childhood abuse. She awakens haunting fear to save others. Will Mistie to recover become a real person, rather than a shadow that creeps and follows on the wall? There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Often, they’ve no where to go. Generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain leads to Stockholm Syndrome. #DomesticViolence #AbuseSurvivor #PTSD #SexualAssault https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB https://books2read.com/Stork

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#WritersPersevere My story

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I commented like crazy yesterday on the Twitter stream. For a bit. I actually found out some interesting bits about myself, and why I wrote some of the books I did.

No knowledge of who my ancestors are, or my place in flow of the land, and sky, did not prevent me from writing. Crosswinds: Past, Present, and Future Combine – my first work – explores this from another point of view.

Surviving severe physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse did not prevent me from writing. Bending the Bars and The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is the result of my knowledge, of me, and millions of others.

Severe memory loss and brain damage didn’t make me stop writing.  If anything, it gave me more reason to write.  To bring my memory back.  At least the good parts.  Out of this came – Journey Through Life Lists.

Learning to live gluten free didn’t slow down my writing. In fact, as I learned to cook gluten free, people begged for my recipes. Coffee, Tea, and Gluten Free: The Cookbook is the result. As is the coming of age novel that accompanies them.

Losing my hearing, and my vision slowed me down. Only because I wanted to be able to continue after all of my vision was gone. There were no guides for an adult to learn how to use a screen reader after using a mouse to control their computer for decades. So, I spent a few years learning, and wrote VoiceOver with the Brailliant Braille Display so I could continue writing. And after the latest OSX update – I had to turn to it to find out why my braille display wasn’t working right!

Somewhere, lost in the depths of time, I wanted to see more science in novels. So I started the Trails series. Still hope to finish the last pair.

I tend to write in pairs. #writerspersevere

I want to write Karma’s Children to describe the millions of stories when adults have smacked down my needs. Don’t have a baby and female – Not qualified to work a job, give it to man, or a woman with someone to support. Don’t have a car, and not willing to drive an hour each way? You aren’t serious about working a job. That novel will be fun.

And it’s pair will cover even more scary features.

Then, there are the short stories I am trying to finish up. Only, I keep having more ideas for short stories.

And the two novellas I want to write.

Deafblind, and doing fine, most of the time. Difficulty walking, talking, and doing many daily things. Yet, I too am a #writerspersevere person.

#writerspersevere

Bending the Bars Thunderclap Campaign

Bending the Bars

 

I have attempted to use the Thunderclap program to help my books reach beyond my tiny follower collection. If I don’t succeed with the two I have chosen to try during the holiday season for books, I won’t try it again.

The problem is, you have to have up to 100 supporters. Each, click for each of the three social networks counts as a supporter.

So if you want to help, click the link, and add support on each of the three networks (Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr).

Share the posts, so others can click the links.

Bending the Bars needs 41 more supporters in less than nine days to be posted. At this point, if it posts, it will reach a potential audience of 170,000 plus all additional audiences added by the remaining 40 supporters. Don’t worry if one of your networks only has a few followers.

If it doesn’t get enough supporters, it will not go out at all.

Bending the Bars is a painful book for some people. It may not be for you, or your audiences. However, shares may save a life. And that saved life, may save millions more in descendants, health or technology breakthroughs, and many other ways.

So, please support this book, or share the link to those who can.

If this book is not for your audiences, please support my other book.

https://www.thunderclap.it/projects/63605-bending-the-bars-survival

Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult

Anne’s story need never be documented.
If existing law had protected Anne, and Ruby’s children, Ruby’s Law would never have been written.
Jo and Lennie begin a 20 year trek to find and rescue Anne from her abusive husband.
They rescue hundreds of other women, children, and the occasional man.
Often, the survivors have known no other life.
They have been conditioned to believe abuse is normal.
The search for Anne continues. Their hope begins to fade.
Bodies burn out.
More stations open.
More people try to escape. Stuck in the legal limbo land, where they are safe from abusers, while surrounded by other survivors, with little hope of full recovery. Few make it out to live beyond the bars that Ruby’s Law has given to protect them. It simply isn’t safe. Abusers wait out there. Often barely beyond the fence.
Can the New Underground Railroad Project stay on track to train abuse survivors to live abuse-free on their own?
Or will they remain behind the legal bars that protect them from their abusers?

Other notes:

Bending the Bars is a journey though recognition of abusers, and survivors in the United States. It recognizes how the laws protect the abusers at the expense of the abused. It also conveys reasons why so many stay when they are abused. They often feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. If they have children, they have to leave without them, potentially condemning their children to worse than if they stay. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. Ruby’s Law is a weak start to grant safety to survivors, and a place to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors.

Author’s Note:
Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult
Rating: PG 16
Profanity: None
Romance: In passing.
Sex: Mentioned.
Violence: Some. Car chases, shootings, survivors of abuse

POV Characters: Jo Forester, Lennie Darendale
Length: 80,000 words

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #codependency, #selfesteem, #BodyLanguage& #NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence #thunderclap

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice – Abuse Survivor

Stork

 

Mistie Jolin dreams of a future like the ones she has read about in books. Her past won’t get her there. Only escape will.
College goes downhill when she realizes health care isn’t available to students with real medical needs.
The army is her last hope. Once there, she is pulled back into a past better buried, to uncover secrets she never dreamed existed.
Secrets that will haunt her, and hundreds more till they die. Mistie must face her fears, the past, and those she has come to trust. Her hope is that they will allow her to recover, and become a real person, rather than the shadow that creeps on the wall and follows her every move.

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is a tale that could have happened. Many aspects have happened to many young girls, women, and even men. This is a violent tale. One that looks at the generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain. There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Most have been conditioned since childhood to believe the abuse is normal. Or, they hope by bearing the abuse themselves, it prevents others from being abused. Often, survivors have nowhere safe to go. Or financial resources to reach a safe place. Laws bind children to their abuser. If they do escape, abusers follow, and bring them back into the endless cycle.
While any of these events could have occurred, this tale is not based on any real life, or combination of lives.

Rating: R.
Profanity: Obvious, unprinted.
Romance: None.
Sex: Off the page. Acknowledged. Violent acts acknowledged as well.
Violence: Alluded to. Court case that covers child sex abuse victims.
Originally written: 2010.

POV Characters: Mistie Jolin
Length: 80,000 words

Amazon (ASIN: B06WVBZVQB) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Amazon Print: https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309622 and https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309614/

Apple I books (1270998922) http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270998922

Barnes Noble Nook https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-stork-mis-delivered-twice-april-d-brown/1125887511

Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489630

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34305975-the-stork-mis-delivered—twice

Kobo (1230001546507 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/the-stork-mis-delivered-twice

Smashwords (co-publishes at): (9781370698851) https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/704039

Soon to be available on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

Bending the Bars – Abuse Survival

Bending the Bars

 

Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult

Anne’s story need never be documented.
If existing law had protected Anne, and Ruby’s children, Ruby’s Law would never have been written.
Jo and Lennie begin a 20 year trek to find and rescue Anne from her abusive husband.
They rescue hundreds of other women, children, and the occasional man.
Often, the survivors have known no other life.
They have been conditioned to believe abuse is normal.
The search for Anne continues. Their hope begins to fade.
Bodies burn out.
More stations open.
More people try to escape. Stuck in the legal limbo land, where they are safe from abusers, while surrounded by other survivors, with little hope of full recovery. Few make it out to live beyond the bars that Ruby’s Law has given to protect them. It simply isn’t safe. Abusers wait out there. Often barely beyond the fence.
Can the New Underground Railroad Project stay on track to train abuse survivors to live abuse-free on their own?
Or will they remain behind the legal bars that protect them from their abusers?

Other notes:

Bending the Bars is a journey though recognition of abusers, and survivors in the United States. It recognizes how the laws protect the abusers at the expense of the abused. It also conveys reasons why so many stay when they are abused. They often feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. If they have children, they have to leave without them, potentially condemning their children to worse than if they stay. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. Ruby’s Law is a weak start to grant safety to survivors, and a place to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors.

Author’s Note:
Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult
Rating: PG 16
Profanity: None
Romance: In passing.
Sex: Mentioned.
Violence: Some. Car chases, shootings, survivors of abuse

POV Characters: Jo Forester, Lennie Darendale
Length: 80,000 words

Apple I books http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270997398

Barnes Noble Nook https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bending-the-bars-april-d-brown/1125892483

Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489631

Kobo (1230001546293 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/bending-the-bars-1

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34304993-bending-the-bars

Soon to be on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

Human Rights – Freedom From List

Human rights are something that should not need to be debated.  Only those who put other people’s lives in jeopardy risk the right to freedom.  Even then, they are protected by other rights that determine how they should be treated, and how the planet should be protected from them.

One of the most basic aspects of human rights is the freedom from section.

Freedom from:
Slavery (even wage slavery)
Torture
Religion
Imprisonment without just cause
Forced Deportation

Freedom from slavery has changed meaning over the last few centuries. Originally, it meant that people personally bought and sold other people as if they were belongings instead of individuals.  However, it has come to be recognized as corporate slavery – where local corporations refuse to pay a living wage, and there is no where for the person to go.  Kinda like the old mining towns, and owing your soul to the company store, simply because you owed so much, you couldn’t leave.  With no chance to escape, alive.

Every person should be free from torture.  Yet, governments are using it again against people.  Even the fear, or mention of torture should be too much.

Freedom from religion.  Religion is a person choice.  One that should not be forced on another.  People have the right to choose a religion, or not choose one.  No one should require, or demand that a religion be required.  It is understandable that some religious organizations would prefer employees with the same beliefs.  However, they should never degrade people who have other beliefs.

Every person should have freedom from imprisonment without just cause.  False imprisonment leads to loss of wages, work time, and community success.  At times in our history, it has been considered okay, and sometimes a safety issue to put people behind bars to protect them, whether from themselves, or others. It would be nice to believe our country has grown beyond that need to protect citizens this way.

Forced deportation of legal citizens, legal immigrants, and those visiting the US is a human rights violation.  It should not be tolerated.  Even criminals should not be forced to leave without a proper trial, sentencing, and legal outcome.

The only exception to following human rights laws is when their rights attempt to trample yours.  The old saying goes, “Your rights end where mine being.”  No one has the right to take your rights away.  Unless, you are using them to hurt others.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

Ruby’s Law is a weak start, a chance to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors. #domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR

There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Often, they’ve no where to go. #Domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Human Rights and Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April is human rights and sexual assault awareness month.  As well as child abuse prevention and pet first aid training month.  Online calendars have a long list of awareness events for the month of April.  A blog could cover one each year, and never cover them all in a full human lifetime.

Many of the subjects for this month can be depressing, so I’ll try to intersperse them with the more cheerful topics.

The first topic of the month will be human rights.

Human rights should be given to all people, regardless of ethnicity, religion, or gender.

Below is a basic list of Human Rights:

Freedom from:
Slavery (incuding wage slavery)
Torture
Religion
Imprisonment without just cause
Forced Deportation without just cause.

Freedom to:
Own property
Religion
Express thoughts and ideas
Peaceful assembly
Vote
Recognition as a person
Legal Equality and Recourse
Fair and Public Trial
Innocent Until Proven Guilty
Privacy of home and correspondence
Economic security
A job, a fair wage, and a trade union
Travel
Seek asylum in another country
Nationality
Marriage and Family
Education
Social Order
Create Intellectual Property
Community Responsibility

The only time some human rights should be waived is for people who sexual assault others.  Those people have no right to be out and about among the rest of the human population.

These issues will be covered in deeper detail in later blogs.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice looks at generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain. #domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Survivors have known no other life.  They are conditioned to believe abuse is normal. #BendingtheBars #selfesteem https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR