Sexual Assault Awareness Month Day of Action

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Sexual assault is something that should not occur. It does exist however. In fact, the majority of women are sexual assault survivors at some point in their lives.

Whether they will admit it, or not. Many don’t recognize the abuse when it happens, or even later.  They explain it away.  Which is called Stockholm Syndrome. And a variety of other conditions play a role in the refusal to recognize the abuse. Including being conditioned to think it is normal behavior.

It doesn’t usually just happen  In most cases, there is sexual harassment before the assault. That may begin moments before, or years before the assault. If only moments before, the victim is more likely to recognize the danger. Especially if the person is a stranger. Though they may not have a chance to escape (jobs, shopping, medical care).

However, often, sexual assault begins in childhood, by people known to the child, and often, their family.  The sexual harassment begins with touches, and comments that seem typical, and acceptable behavior between often the adult and a child.  Spread out over years, people don’t notice the escalation of behaviors, like they do when the harassment is skipped.

Although it should not exist, it does.

I’ve written two books on the subject of surviving sexual assault and other forms of abuse.  Both books delve into multiple stories as to why it occurs, how it is hidden, and how the minds of survivors may work.  As no two cases are identical, no two survivors have the same outcomes.  Some realize they are victims and try to escape.  Others refuse to accept that they are victims, and may even stay with their abuser for life.  Most, fall somewhere in between on a continuum of surviving sexual assault.

Bending the Bars

Laws currently protect #abusers. Survivors abandon children, condemning them to worse abuse. Ruby’s Law is a weak start, a chance to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors. Legal limbo, safe from #abusers, surrounded by other survivors, little hope of full recovery. Few make it beyond the bars where Ruby’s Law protects #Survivors and their children. #StockholmSyndrome #Abusers stalk. #DomesticViolence #PTSD #CoDependency https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5X https://books2read.com/BendingtheBars

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice

Mistie Jolin repressed childhood abuse. She awakens haunting fear to save others. Will Mistie to recover become a real person, rather than a shadow that creeps and follows on the wall? There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Often, they’ve no where to go. Generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain leads to Stockholm Syndrome. #DomesticViolence #AbuseSurvivor #PTSD #SexualAssault https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB https://books2read.com/Stork

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National Week of the Ocean

The first week of April is the National Week of the Ocean.

A perfect time to think about the ocean.  Not just the beaches.  Though they do matter.  The beaches are like the leaves of the ocean. They stretch out to join ocean and Earth.  Ocean and sky.  We see the health of the ocean through its natural beaches.  Those less travelled by humans.

Oceans were once teeming with life.  Now, many sections are left barren by overfishing.  Empty places, with little, or nothing to fill them.

Beaches show this by their lack of living, mostly mammals and crustaceans, who once lived on the beaches, the border between the land and the sea.

Oceans are now filled with debris.  Much plastic, and other garbage, that floated into them from the mountains, down the once pristine streams, to glutted rivers, and deposited in the ocean. Animals eat this plastic, thinking it is food.  Or, in the case of filter feeders, there is no escaping as they open their mouths to eat.  In many ways, plastic in the oceans, is like smoke in smoke-filled room.  No escaping it.  It is in your clothes, lungs, food, drink, hair, and everything there.

We see the devastation on many beaches. Covered with garbage, brought in by the waves.  Garbage that did not originate on that coast, or even that continent.

Europeans are doing their part to enact laws to cut back plastics use, and help clean up oceans, regardless of where the trash in them came from.

Our beaches show us the life and death struggle of the animals that live both in the depths, and those that live on land.

Once, the beaches teemed with life.  Both ocean life, and terrestrial life.  Sleeping, feeding, and raising families.  Now, many are lifeless, empty, eroding without the animals to keep them safe from harm.

Ocean Garbage : https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/science/2018/03/22/great-pacific-garbage-patch-grows/446405002/

Ocean Cleanup:  https://www.theoceancleanup.com/

Ocean Cleanup on Beaches where the garbage did not originate.  People drink this water.  Fish from it.  Bathe in it.  https://www.theguardian.com/world/2016/aug/09/modern-life-rubbish-helping-mumbai-clean-up-beach-india-city

It doesn’t have to be this way.  There are plenty of teens inventing solutions to collect the garbage from the oceans.  As much as possible.  Of course, millions of jobs could be created.  Governments choose not to, as they’ve no place to put all the garbage.  Though, it could be sorted, recycled, and broken down into less dangerous particles.

Garbage Bin: http://www.slate.com/articles/video/video/2015/12/a_clever_new_automatic_ocean_trash_collection_system_called_the_seabin_is.html

A list of options: https://upliftconnect.com/clean-up-the-ocean/

There are dangers to fish being trapped inside the garbage collection devices.  And most of the choices will not collect microplastics, especially microplastic beads. Which tend to fill plankton, that are eaten by larger fish, and larger fish, up three or four sizes before being eaten by humans.

Microplastics https://oceanservice.noaa.gov/facts/microplastics.html

Another option is bacteria that digest plastic.  They could eventually help clean up our oceans, and our landfills.  https://phys.org/news/2016-03-newly-bacteria-plastic-bottles.html Again, creating millions of jobs to grow the bacteria, disperse, it, and evaluate the landfills as they shrink from plastic disappearing.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to see the ocean, and its beaches teeming with life, rather than litter?

Bending the Bars Thunderclap Campaign

Bending the Bars

 

I have attempted to use the Thunderclap program to help my books reach beyond my tiny follower collection. If I don’t succeed with the two I have chosen to try during the holiday season for books, I won’t try it again.

The problem is, you have to have up to 100 supporters. Each, click for each of the three social networks counts as a supporter.

So if you want to help, click the link, and add support on each of the three networks (Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr).

Share the posts, so others can click the links.

Bending the Bars needs 41 more supporters in less than nine days to be posted. At this point, if it posts, it will reach a potential audience of 170,000 plus all additional audiences added by the remaining 40 supporters. Don’t worry if one of your networks only has a few followers.

If it doesn’t get enough supporters, it will not go out at all.

Bending the Bars is a painful book for some people. It may not be for you, or your audiences. However, shares may save a life. And that saved life, may save millions more in descendants, health or technology breakthroughs, and many other ways.

So, please support this book, or share the link to those who can.

If this book is not for your audiences, please support my other book.

https://www.thunderclap.it/projects/63605-bending-the-bars-survival

Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult

Anne’s story need never be documented.
If existing law had protected Anne, and Ruby’s children, Ruby’s Law would never have been written.
Jo and Lennie begin a 20 year trek to find and rescue Anne from her abusive husband.
They rescue hundreds of other women, children, and the occasional man.
Often, the survivors have known no other life.
They have been conditioned to believe abuse is normal.
The search for Anne continues. Their hope begins to fade.
Bodies burn out.
More stations open.
More people try to escape. Stuck in the legal limbo land, where they are safe from abusers, while surrounded by other survivors, with little hope of full recovery. Few make it out to live beyond the bars that Ruby’s Law has given to protect them. It simply isn’t safe. Abusers wait out there. Often barely beyond the fence.
Can the New Underground Railroad Project stay on track to train abuse survivors to live abuse-free on their own?
Or will they remain behind the legal bars that protect them from their abusers?

Other notes:

Bending the Bars is a journey though recognition of abusers, and survivors in the United States. It recognizes how the laws protect the abusers at the expense of the abused. It also conveys reasons why so many stay when they are abused. They often feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. If they have children, they have to leave without them, potentially condemning their children to worse than if they stay. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. Ruby’s Law is a weak start to grant safety to survivors, and a place to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors.

Author’s Note:
Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult
Rating: PG 16
Profanity: None
Romance: In passing.
Sex: Mentioned.
Violence: Some. Car chases, shootings, survivors of abuse

POV Characters: Jo Forester, Lennie Darendale
Length: 80,000 words

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #codependency, #selfesteem, #BodyLanguage& #NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence #thunderclap

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice – Abuse Survivor

Stork

 

Mistie Jolin dreams of a future like the ones she has read about in books. Her past won’t get her there. Only escape will.
College goes downhill when she realizes health care isn’t available to students with real medical needs.
The army is her last hope. Once there, she is pulled back into a past better buried, to uncover secrets she never dreamed existed.
Secrets that will haunt her, and hundreds more till they die. Mistie must face her fears, the past, and those she has come to trust. Her hope is that they will allow her to recover, and become a real person, rather than the shadow that creeps on the wall and follows her every move.

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is a tale that could have happened. Many aspects have happened to many young girls, women, and even men. This is a violent tale. One that looks at the generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain. There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Most have been conditioned since childhood to believe the abuse is normal. Or, they hope by bearing the abuse themselves, it prevents others from being abused. Often, survivors have nowhere safe to go. Or financial resources to reach a safe place. Laws bind children to their abuser. If they do escape, abusers follow, and bring them back into the endless cycle.
While any of these events could have occurred, this tale is not based on any real life, or combination of lives.

Rating: R.
Profanity: Obvious, unprinted.
Romance: None.
Sex: Off the page. Acknowledged. Violent acts acknowledged as well.
Violence: Alluded to. Court case that covers child sex abuse victims.
Originally written: 2010.

POV Characters: Mistie Jolin
Length: 80,000 words

Amazon (ASIN: B06WVBZVQB) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Amazon Print: https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309622 and https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309614/

Apple I books (1270998922) http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270998922

Barnes Noble Nook https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-stork-mis-delivered-twice-april-d-brown/1125887511

Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489630

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34305975-the-stork-mis-delivered—twice

Kobo (1230001546507 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/the-stork-mis-delivered-twice

Smashwords (co-publishes at): (9781370698851) https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/704039

Soon to be available on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

Bending the Bars – Abuse Survival

Bending the Bars

 

Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult

Anne’s story need never be documented.
If existing law had protected Anne, and Ruby’s children, Ruby’s Law would never have been written.
Jo and Lennie begin a 20 year trek to find and rescue Anne from her abusive husband.
They rescue hundreds of other women, children, and the occasional man.
Often, the survivors have known no other life.
They have been conditioned to believe abuse is normal.
The search for Anne continues. Their hope begins to fade.
Bodies burn out.
More stations open.
More people try to escape. Stuck in the legal limbo land, where they are safe from abusers, while surrounded by other survivors, with little hope of full recovery. Few make it out to live beyond the bars that Ruby’s Law has given to protect them. It simply isn’t safe. Abusers wait out there. Often barely beyond the fence.
Can the New Underground Railroad Project stay on track to train abuse survivors to live abuse-free on their own?
Or will they remain behind the legal bars that protect them from their abusers?

Other notes:

Bending the Bars is a journey though recognition of abusers, and survivors in the United States. It recognizes how the laws protect the abusers at the expense of the abused. It also conveys reasons why so many stay when they are abused. They often feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. If they have children, they have to leave without them, potentially condemning their children to worse than if they stay. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. Ruby’s Law is a weak start to grant safety to survivors, and a place to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors.

Author’s Note:
Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult
Rating: PG 16
Profanity: None
Romance: In passing.
Sex: Mentioned.
Violence: Some. Car chases, shootings, survivors of abuse

POV Characters: Jo Forester, Lennie Darendale
Length: 80,000 words

Apple I books http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270997398

Barnes Noble Nook https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bending-the-bars-april-d-brown/1125892483

Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489631

Kobo (1230001546293 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/bending-the-bars-1

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34304993-bending-the-bars

Soon to be on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

Human Rights – Legal Rights

Human rights that have generally been accepted, although they too are now at risk of being lost.

Legal Freedom to:
Peaceful assembly
Vote
Recognition as a person
Legal Equality and Recourse
Fair and Public Trial
Innocent Until Proven Guilty
Seek asylum in another country
Nationality
Social Order

The United States was founded on the belief of equality.  The right to assemble with others was essential to the beginning of our country.  Whether that assembly occurs indoors, or outdoors, should not matter.

The right to vote.  That has been debated since the beginning of the country, as to who should have the right to vote.  All humans should.  Regardless of age, gender, or ethnicity.  The only exceptions should be murders and sex offenders.  At one point, voting was considered a holiday.  Perhaps we should go back to that since so many companies refuse time off for employees to drive 20+ miles away to vote.  Or, create an online system that only takes a few moments.

All people should be recognized as people.  There has been much recent legislation to deny women as people, and take away their rights.

More prominent legal issues revolve around more serious matters.  Social order is vital to allow human rights to exist for all.  This requires an innocent until proven guilty justice system.  That justice system is required to grant people proper representation in a fair and public trail within a reasonable amount of time.  Not years or decades later.  Nor, should it punish those whom have been victimized.

No person should be denied their basic human rights based on their nationality.  Yet, this occurs every day.

Humans rights bring equality.  Those who demand their rights, while denying others equal rights, are hurting themselves as well as the person they are denying personhood to.

Some people like to say life isn’t fair.  We as people, as humans, should try to make it as fair as possible.  Treat others the way we want to be treated.  Raise others up, don’t trample them in the mud on the rise to the top.  There is no point standing on the mud flats with no one beside you.  Help them up with you, and bask in the beauty of the sunshine.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

#BendingtheBars examines #dysfunctionalfamilies, #abuse, #PTSD, and the legal system keeps #Survivors with abusers. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is a violent tale that could have happened. #Domesticviolence #selfesteem https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Human Rights – Right to Community

This list of human rights is the one that should be simplest.  Those rights you want for yourself, you should also want for your neighbor.  However, these seem to be the most contentious.  People want these rights for themselves, and yet they want to dictate to others what they can, or cannot do.  While you may be able to request that a person not do (or say) certain things within your home, or business, it hurts everyone to do so.  There may be certain reasons, such as PTSD, that may okay caution in some rare cases.

Freedom to:
Own property
Religion
Express thoughts and ideas
Privacy of home and correspondence
Economic security
A job, a fair wage, and a trade union
Travel
Marriage and Family (including adoption)
Education
Create Intellectual Property
Community Responsibility

Every person should have the freedom to own property.  For some reason, our society counts success as owning objects.  When  whole segments of the population are not allowed to own anything, they will never be viewed as successful, which leads to a magnitude of problems.

Religion.  A contentious subject.  As it should be.  It is private and personal, and should remain that way.  No one needs to know, unless they live in your home.  Or, their religious choices hurt or kill others.  Then, those people fall back into the legal human rights category.

All humans, regardless of age, gender, or background should be able to express their thoughts and ideas in mediums they choose, as long as they do not hurt others.  These thoughts and ideas do have consequences.

All humans should have the right to privacy, both in the home, and in public.  Their health, and other records should never be available to the public.  Very rare instances should any of these documents be made available to doctors, police departments, and employers.

Although, it could benefit deafblind individuals for police to know there are deafblind individuals in the community.  They sometimes need specialized to training to realize that a deafblind person may not hear them, or recognize that a police office is there.  Some deafblind individuals have died in recent years due to being shot by police who were unaware that a person walking with a cane was not a threat, and had no way of knowing they were there and yelling at them.

All humans should have the right to live with, and financially support the people they choose to.  Whether as a spouse, or a friend.  This support should be extended to include insurance (until national payer exists) housing, ad hospital visitation.

All people should have the right to adopt a child if they are deemed a fit parent.  Some parents may work outside the home, while others, who remain at home, can care for the children who need a full time parent.

All humans should have a right to fair and safe employment.  This includes fair wages, equal wages -regardless of gender, age, or ability.  In this case, ability applies to accommodating visual, hearing, and physical disabilities, not the ability to do the job.

All humans should have the right to have vacation.  Time to read, rest, and be around family.  Working every waking moment for 30 or 40 years simply leads to disability, and a wasted life.

All humans should have access to health.  Both healthcare, and real health opportunities.  Healthcare is vital to well being.  Without time off, and short enough work days, people cannot eat or exercise properly to maintain their health.

All people should have a right to an education.  Education stretches the mind and keeps the person busy and happy.  It helps people relate, understand, and empathize with others, regardless of their situation.

An often forgotten component of human rights is the concept of community responsibility.  If a community normalizes abusers, they should not be surprised at the results – damaged community members who cannot fill the roles society expects them to.  If you see someone abusing another, it’s important to stand up for them.  It is the only way abuse will stop.  These survivors need to know they have community support.  Even if that support is simply agreement, and preventing of victimization.

The list goes on and on.  Basically, if you feel you have a certain right, then so does the person next to you.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

Secrets will haunt Mistie, and hundreds of others till death. #PTSD #abusesurvivor The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Survivors feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. #codependency #BendingtheBars https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR