The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice – Abuse Survivor

Stork

 

Mistie Jolin dreams of a future like the ones she has read about in books. Her past won’t get her there. Only escape will.
College goes downhill when she realizes health care isn’t available to students with real medical needs.
The army is her last hope. Once there, she is pulled back into a past better buried, to uncover secrets she never dreamed existed.
Secrets that will haunt her, and hundreds more till they die. Mistie must face her fears, the past, and those she has come to trust. Her hope is that they will allow her to recover, and become a real person, rather than the shadow that creeps on the wall and follows her every move.

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is a tale that could have happened. Many aspects have happened to many young girls, women, and even men. This is a violent tale. One that looks at the generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain. There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Most have been conditioned since childhood to believe the abuse is normal. Or, they hope by bearing the abuse themselves, it prevents others from being abused. Often, survivors have nowhere safe to go. Or financial resources to reach a safe place. Laws bind children to their abuser. If they do escape, abusers follow, and bring them back into the endless cycle.
While any of these events could have occurred, this tale is not based on any real life, or combination of lives.

Rating: R.
Profanity: Obvious, unprinted.
Romance: None.
Sex: Off the page. Acknowledged. Violent acts acknowledged as well.
Violence: Alluded to. Court case that covers child sex abuse victims.
Originally written: 2010.

POV Characters: Mistie Jolin
Length: 80,000 words

Amazon (ASIN: B06WVBZVQB) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Amazon Print: https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309622 and https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309614/

Apple I books (1270998922) http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270998922

Barnes Noble Nook https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-stork-mis-delivered-twice-april-d-brown/1125887511

Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489630

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34305975-the-stork-mis-delivered—twice

Kobo (1230001546507 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/the-stork-mis-delivered-twice

Smashwords (co-publishes at): (9781370698851) https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/704039

Soon to be available on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

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Bending the Bars – Abuse Survival

Bending the Bars

 

Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult

Anne’s story need never be documented.
If existing law had protected Anne, and Ruby’s children, Ruby’s Law would never have been written.
Jo and Lennie begin a 20 year trek to find and rescue Anne from her abusive husband.
They rescue hundreds of other women, children, and the occasional man.
Often, the survivors have known no other life.
They have been conditioned to believe abuse is normal.
The search for Anne continues. Their hope begins to fade.
Bodies burn out.
More stations open.
More people try to escape. Stuck in the legal limbo land, where they are safe from abusers, while surrounded by other survivors, with little hope of full recovery. Few make it out to live beyond the bars that Ruby’s Law has given to protect them. It simply isn’t safe. Abusers wait out there. Often barely beyond the fence.
Can the New Underground Railroad Project stay on track to train abuse survivors to live abuse-free on their own?
Or will they remain behind the legal bars that protect them from their abusers?

Other notes:

Bending the Bars is a journey though recognition of abusers, and survivors in the United States. It recognizes how the laws protect the abusers at the expense of the abused. It also conveys reasons why so many stay when they are abused. They often feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. If they have children, they have to leave without them, potentially condemning their children to worse than if they stay. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. Ruby’s Law is a weak start to grant safety to survivors, and a place to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors.

Author’s Note:
Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult
Rating: PG 16
Profanity: None
Romance: In passing.
Sex: Mentioned.
Violence: Some. Car chases, shootings, survivors of abuse

POV Characters: Jo Forester, Lennie Darendale
Length: 80,000 words

Apple I books http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270997398

Barnes Noble Nook https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bending-the-bars-april-d-brown/1125892483

Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489631

Kobo (1230001546293 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/bending-the-bars-1

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34304993-bending-the-bars

Soon to be on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

Human Rights – Freedom From List

Human rights are something that should not need to be debated.  Only those who put other people’s lives in jeopardy risk the right to freedom.  Even then, they are protected by other rights that determine how they should be treated, and how the planet should be protected from them.

One of the most basic aspects of human rights is the freedom from section.

Freedom from:
Slavery (even wage slavery)
Torture
Religion
Imprisonment without just cause
Forced Deportation

Freedom from slavery has changed meaning over the last few centuries. Originally, it meant that people personally bought and sold other people as if they were belongings instead of individuals.  However, it has come to be recognized as corporate slavery – where local corporations refuse to pay a living wage, and there is no where for the person to go.  Kinda like the old mining towns, and owing your soul to the company store, simply because you owed so much, you couldn’t leave.  With no chance to escape, alive.

Every person should be free from torture.  Yet, governments are using it again against people.  Even the fear, or mention of torture should be too much.

Freedom from religion.  Religion is a person choice.  One that should not be forced on another.  People have the right to choose a religion, or not choose one.  No one should require, or demand that a religion be required.  It is understandable that some religious organizations would prefer employees with the same beliefs.  However, they should never degrade people who have other beliefs.

Every person should have freedom from imprisonment without just cause.  False imprisonment leads to loss of wages, work time, and community success.  At times in our history, it has been considered okay, and sometimes a safety issue to put people behind bars to protect them, whether from themselves, or others. It would be nice to believe our country has grown beyond that need to protect citizens this way.

Forced deportation of legal citizens, legal immigrants, and those visiting the US is a human rights violation.  It should not be tolerated.  Even criminals should not be forced to leave without a proper trial, sentencing, and legal outcome.

The only exception to following human rights laws is when their rights attempt to trample yours.  The old saying goes, “Your rights end where mine being.”  No one has the right to take your rights away.  Unless, you are using them to hurt others.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

Ruby’s Law is a weak start, a chance to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors. #domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR

There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Often, they’ve no where to go. #Domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Human Rights and Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April is human rights and sexual assault awareness month.  As well as child abuse prevention and pet first aid training month.  Online calendars have a long list of awareness events for the month of April.  A blog could cover one each year, and never cover them all in a full human lifetime.

Many of the subjects for this month can be depressing, so I’ll try to intersperse them with the more cheerful topics.

The first topic of the month will be human rights.

Human rights should be given to all people, regardless of ethnicity, religion, or gender.

Below is a basic list of Human Rights:

Freedom from:
Slavery (incuding wage slavery)
Torture
Religion
Imprisonment without just cause
Forced Deportation without just cause.

Freedom to:
Own property
Religion
Express thoughts and ideas
Peaceful assembly
Vote
Recognition as a person
Legal Equality and Recourse
Fair and Public Trial
Innocent Until Proven Guilty
Privacy of home and correspondence
Economic security
A job, a fair wage, and a trade union
Travel
Seek asylum in another country
Nationality
Marriage and Family
Education
Social Order
Create Intellectual Property
Community Responsibility

The only time some human rights should be waived is for people who sexual assault others.  Those people have no right to be out and about among the rest of the human population.

These issues will be covered in deeper detail in later blogs.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice looks at generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain. #domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Survivors have known no other life.  They are conditioned to believe abuse is normal. #BendingtheBars #selfesteem https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR

Stockholm Syndrome.

Today’s post is about Stockholm Syndrome.
A devastating syndrome, in which victims sympathize with their abusers.
This was first recognized and studied in victims of bank robberies and such types of events.
It was later categorized to explain why victims stay with their abusers, and refuse to leave.
We see the symptoms of it everyday. They have been increasing in the last two decades. Someone will be talking, and they will go into a trance-like state, say something nonsensical, or self-abusing, and then shake their head and return to semi-normal conversation.
Sometimes these victims, mostly women, escape their abusers for a time. It may be months. It may be years. Usually, some well meaning other victim, often a family member, or friend, pulls them back into the pack of abused women.
This is mostly about women. Though, it can occur in anyone, particularly any minority or disabled person, whom society values as less than a full person.
One way to recognize this, is someone who does not value themselves. Who does not respect themselves. Who does not recognize their value. One who does not respect the value of others, by pushing their abusers values onto those in their care.
If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t respect others. Women should be valued. Their value is worth more than any paper money can replace.
Sadly, too many see themselves as less than.
That is extremely mentally and physically unhealthy.
As a society we need healthy people of all ages, regardless of gender and ethnicity. People who value themselves enough to want to live to help others.
Without self-value, there is no room for valuing others.
Without self-care, they is no ability to care for others.
Without self-worth, there is no ability to see the difference anyone can make.
Without self-trust, there is no trust in others.
With no self-respect, one cannot respect others.

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice and Benidn ghte Bars

Bending the Bars and The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice are now available in ebook format.
These novels combat domestic abuse and sex offenders. Something that has run rampant in the last twenty years. This is a serious social ill that should have been eradicated thousands of years ago.
Humans are the only species that would consider sexual interest in a female who is not of child bearing age.
Sadly, our laws protect the abusers rather than the survivors.
In addition, the laws, courts, and society further enact victim blaming against the survivor – often denying them family, friends, jobs, a safe place to live, and all rights as a person to their privacy, access to food, water, clothing, or shelter.
Sad.
Someday, humans may decide to treat people as equals, and actually allow abusers to be properly removed from society.
Were they once abused? Often.
Yet, for every abuser left in a community, they create thousands more.

Stranger Danger

Last night was funny. Bailey pup decided to howl. It was such a odd howl, as his often are. I thought it was hubby making fun of him.
I was able to use my Bluetooth hearing aids to listen to my novel yesterday as I edited. It left a major headache.
In Bending the Bars, which should have never needed writing, I talk about Ruby’s Law. It is a start. Not enough. Her law allows people to escape their abusers with their children. They can legally leave the state and live in a fenced in area where they can recover from their abuse. Many will never leave. They feel safer inside than outside.
I dream of the day the first child is born that will never meet anyone who has been abused. That will be at least a century. Abuse, particularly sexual abuse, runs rampant in this country, in our world.
Until we have laws that will protect the victims, not the abusers, it will.
We need two aspects to that law:
1. Women (and children) can smack the abuser at the first touch.
It has been proven that when a male first begins his first grooming tactics on his first victim, if she physically stops him, 9 out of 10 will not become abusers.
2. Children need to be taught about bad touch. Used to be called stranger danger. And while strangers are a danger, 95% of abusers are family members, family friends, or others known to a child. They begin grooming children for abuse, often from the moment they are born. By the time they reach school age, most teachers can recognize which children have been groomed for sexual abuse. Even if full sexual abuse has yet to occur.
3. Sex abusers know they can get away with their crimes. Forever. And, they can give their victims deadly diseases. Also, by abusing one person, they open up an entire network of that person’s contacts, family, friends, co-workers to potential abuse. Abuse never ends with one victim. We need a justice system that will attack the problem. The system we have now, allows the abusers access to their victims. And they know they will never be safe as long as the abuser is alive. If the abusers were tried, convicted, and sentenced within 48 hours of an attack, more would be reported.
I long for a day when a woman can walk anywhere she wants without fear of sexual attack. There is no reason for these attacks. 99% are never reported. The survivors often bury them. Forget them. Hide them. Lash out at others. They know there is no hope of their attacker being brought to justice. Now, they even brag about sex abuse on national tv. They know they won’t go to jail.
And so it continues.
One abuser can create thousands of victims in one lifetime. Of those thousands, many will become abusers themselves. Even if they don’t, they often live a life of fear and hiding. Which affects every person they come in contact with.
We need stricter laws. Sadly, the sex offender laws have been loosened in the last few decades. That has led to many issues. Offenses against another person’s body need to be taken seriously. As an offense against life. It is a form of murder. As it murders self-esteem, self-respect, hope, dreams, and the future of the victim, and the dozens of people in their lives.