Sexual Assault Awareness Month Day of Action

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Sexual assault is something that should not occur. It does exist however. In fact, the majority of women are sexual assault survivors at some point in their lives.

Whether they will admit it, or not. Many don’t recognize the abuse when it happens, or even later.  They explain it away.  Which is called Stockholm Syndrome. And a variety of other conditions play a role in the refusal to recognize the abuse. Including being conditioned to think it is normal behavior.

It doesn’t usually just happen  In most cases, there is sexual harassment before the assault. That may begin moments before, or years before the assault. If only moments before, the victim is more likely to recognize the danger. Especially if the person is a stranger. Though they may not have a chance to escape (jobs, shopping, medical care).

However, often, sexual assault begins in childhood, by people known to the child, and often, their family.  The sexual harassment begins with touches, and comments that seem typical, and acceptable behavior between often the adult and a child.  Spread out over years, people don’t notice the escalation of behaviors, like they do when the harassment is skipped.

Although it should not exist, it does.

I’ve written two books on the subject of surviving sexual assault and other forms of abuse.  Both books delve into multiple stories as to why it occurs, how it is hidden, and how the minds of survivors may work.  As no two cases are identical, no two survivors have the same outcomes.  Some realize they are victims and try to escape.  Others refuse to accept that they are victims, and may even stay with their abuser for life.  Most, fall somewhere in between on a continuum of surviving sexual assault.

Bending the Bars

Laws currently protect #abusers. Survivors abandon children, condemning them to worse abuse. Ruby’s Law is a weak start, a chance to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors. Legal limbo, safe from #abusers, surrounded by other survivors, little hope of full recovery. Few make it beyond the bars where Ruby’s Law protects #Survivors and their children. #StockholmSyndrome #Abusers stalk. #DomesticViolence #PTSD #CoDependency https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5X https://books2read.com/BendingtheBars

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice

Mistie Jolin repressed childhood abuse. She awakens haunting fear to save others. Will Mistie to recover become a real person, rather than a shadow that creeps and follows on the wall? There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Often, they’ve no where to go. Generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain leads to Stockholm Syndrome. #DomesticViolence #AbuseSurvivor #PTSD #SexualAssault https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB https://books2read.com/Stork

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Coffee, Tea, and Gluten Free: The Cookbook

I am trying a program called Thunderclap. 

It requires you have 100 social media accounts agree to share an advertising post at the same time. 

They share on Tumblr, Twitter, and Facebook. 

  I tried Bending the Bars (https://www.thunderclap.it/projects/63605-bending-the-bars-survival), Coffee, Tea, and Gluten Free: The Cookbook (https://www.thunderclap.it/projects/63606-easy-gluten-free-cooking), and Trails 1: Trails Through the Fault Lines (https://www.instafreebie.com/book/45103).  If I have trouble getting enough supporters, then I won’t bother again.

Bending the Bars

Bending the Bars did post, and no sales yet.

I am hoping my readers here will be interested the Cookbook and Trails 1.

If you have read any of my books, please support these campaigns to let others know they exist.  The more support, the more readers know about them.

#WritersPersevere My story

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I commented like crazy yesterday on the Twitter stream. For a bit. I actually found out some interesting bits about myself, and why I wrote some of the books I did.

No knowledge of who my ancestors are, or my place in flow of the land, and sky, did not prevent me from writing. Crosswinds: Past, Present, and Future Combine – my first work – explores this from another point of view.

Surviving severe physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse did not prevent me from writing. Bending the Bars and The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is the result of my knowledge, of me, and millions of others.

Severe memory loss and brain damage didn’t make me stop writing.  If anything, it gave me more reason to write.  To bring my memory back.  At least the good parts.  Out of this came – Journey Through Life Lists.

Learning to live gluten free didn’t slow down my writing. In fact, as I learned to cook gluten free, people begged for my recipes. Coffee, Tea, and Gluten Free: The Cookbook is the result. As is the coming of age novel that accompanies them.

Losing my hearing, and my vision slowed me down. Only because I wanted to be able to continue after all of my vision was gone. There were no guides for an adult to learn how to use a screen reader after using a mouse to control their computer for decades. So, I spent a few years learning, and wrote VoiceOver with the Brailliant Braille Display so I could continue writing. And after the latest OSX update – I had to turn to it to find out why my braille display wasn’t working right!

Somewhere, lost in the depths of time, I wanted to see more science in novels. So I started the Trails series. Still hope to finish the last pair.

I tend to write in pairs. #writerspersevere

I want to write Karma’s Children to describe the millions of stories when adults have smacked down my needs. Don’t have a baby and female – Not qualified to work a job, give it to man, or a woman with someone to support. Don’t have a car, and not willing to drive an hour each way? You aren’t serious about working a job. That novel will be fun.

And it’s pair will cover even more scary features.

Then, there are the short stories I am trying to finish up. Only, I keep having more ideas for short stories.

And the two novellas I want to write.

Deafblind, and doing fine, most of the time. Difficulty walking, talking, and doing many daily things. Yet, I too am a #writerspersevere person.

#writerspersevere

Human Rights – Legal Rights

Human rights that have generally been accepted, although they too are now at risk of being lost.

Legal Freedom to:
Peaceful assembly
Vote
Recognition as a person
Legal Equality and Recourse
Fair and Public Trial
Innocent Until Proven Guilty
Seek asylum in another country
Nationality
Social Order

The United States was founded on the belief of equality.  The right to assemble with others was essential to the beginning of our country.  Whether that assembly occurs indoors, or outdoors, should not matter.

The right to vote.  That has been debated since the beginning of the country, as to who should have the right to vote.  All humans should.  Regardless of age, gender, or ethnicity.  The only exceptions should be murders and sex offenders.  At one point, voting was considered a holiday.  Perhaps we should go back to that since so many companies refuse time off for employees to drive 20+ miles away to vote.  Or, create an online system that only takes a few moments.

All people should be recognized as people.  There has been much recent legislation to deny women as people, and take away their rights.

More prominent legal issues revolve around more serious matters.  Social order is vital to allow human rights to exist for all.  This requires an innocent until proven guilty justice system.  That justice system is required to grant people proper representation in a fair and public trail within a reasonable amount of time.  Not years or decades later.  Nor, should it punish those whom have been victimized.

No person should be denied their basic human rights based on their nationality.  Yet, this occurs every day.

Humans rights bring equality.  Those who demand their rights, while denying others equal rights, are hurting themselves as well as the person they are denying personhood to.

Some people like to say life isn’t fair.  We as people, as humans, should try to make it as fair as possible.  Treat others the way we want to be treated.  Raise others up, don’t trample them in the mud on the rise to the top.  There is no point standing on the mud flats with no one beside you.  Help them up with you, and bask in the beauty of the sunshine.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

#BendingtheBars examines #dysfunctionalfamilies, #abuse, #PTSD, and the legal system keeps #Survivors with abusers. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is a violent tale that could have happened. #Domesticviolence #selfesteem https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Human Rights – Freedom From List

Human rights are something that should not need to be debated.  Only those who put other people’s lives in jeopardy risk the right to freedom.  Even then, they are protected by other rights that determine how they should be treated, and how the planet should be protected from them.

One of the most basic aspects of human rights is the freedom from section.

Freedom from:
Slavery (even wage slavery)
Torture
Religion
Imprisonment without just cause
Forced Deportation

Freedom from slavery has changed meaning over the last few centuries. Originally, it meant that people personally bought and sold other people as if they were belongings instead of individuals.  However, it has come to be recognized as corporate slavery – where local corporations refuse to pay a living wage, and there is no where for the person to go.  Kinda like the old mining towns, and owing your soul to the company store, simply because you owed so much, you couldn’t leave.  With no chance to escape, alive.

Every person should be free from torture.  Yet, governments are using it again against people.  Even the fear, or mention of torture should be too much.

Freedom from religion.  Religion is a person choice.  One that should not be forced on another.  People have the right to choose a religion, or not choose one.  No one should require, or demand that a religion be required.  It is understandable that some religious organizations would prefer employees with the same beliefs.  However, they should never degrade people who have other beliefs.

Every person should have freedom from imprisonment without just cause.  False imprisonment leads to loss of wages, work time, and community success.  At times in our history, it has been considered okay, and sometimes a safety issue to put people behind bars to protect them, whether from themselves, or others. It would be nice to believe our country has grown beyond that need to protect citizens this way.

Forced deportation of legal citizens, legal immigrants, and those visiting the US is a human rights violation.  It should not be tolerated.  Even criminals should not be forced to leave without a proper trial, sentencing, and legal outcome.

The only exception to following human rights laws is when their rights attempt to trample yours.  The old saying goes, “Your rights end where mine being.”  No one has the right to take your rights away.  Unless, you are using them to hurt others.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

Ruby’s Law is a weak start, a chance to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors. #domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR

There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Often, they’ve no where to go. #Domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Human Rights and Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April is human rights and sexual assault awareness month.  As well as child abuse prevention and pet first aid training month.  Online calendars have a long list of awareness events for the month of April.  A blog could cover one each year, and never cover them all in a full human lifetime.

Many of the subjects for this month can be depressing, so I’ll try to intersperse them with the more cheerful topics.

The first topic of the month will be human rights.

Human rights should be given to all people, regardless of ethnicity, religion, or gender.

Below is a basic list of Human Rights:

Freedom from:
Slavery (incuding wage slavery)
Torture
Religion
Imprisonment without just cause
Forced Deportation without just cause.

Freedom to:
Own property
Religion
Express thoughts and ideas
Peaceful assembly
Vote
Recognition as a person
Legal Equality and Recourse
Fair and Public Trial
Innocent Until Proven Guilty
Privacy of home and correspondence
Economic security
A job, a fair wage, and a trade union
Travel
Seek asylum in another country
Nationality
Marriage and Family
Education
Social Order
Create Intellectual Property
Community Responsibility

The only time some human rights should be waived is for people who sexual assault others.  Those people have no right to be out and about among the rest of the human population.

These issues will be covered in deeper detail in later blogs.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice looks at generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain. #domesticviolence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Survivors have known no other life.  They are conditioned to believe abuse is normal. #BendingtheBars #selfesteem https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR