The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice – Abuse Survivor

Stork

 

Mistie Jolin dreams of a future like the ones she has read about in books. Her past won’t get her there. Only escape will.
College goes downhill when she realizes health care isn’t available to students with real medical needs.
The army is her last hope. Once there, she is pulled back into a past better buried, to uncover secrets she never dreamed existed.
Secrets that will haunt her, and hundreds more till they die. Mistie must face her fears, the past, and those she has come to trust. Her hope is that they will allow her to recover, and become a real person, rather than the shadow that creeps on the wall and follows her every move.

The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice is a tale that could have happened. Many aspects have happened to many young girls, women, and even men. This is a violent tale. One that looks at the generational damage caused by abuse, neglect, and pain. There is no easy answer as to why survivors do not escape. Most have been conditioned since childhood to believe the abuse is normal. Or, they hope by bearing the abuse themselves, it prevents others from being abused. Often, survivors have nowhere safe to go. Or financial resources to reach a safe place. Laws bind children to their abuser. If they do escape, abusers follow, and bring them back into the endless cycle.
While any of these events could have occurred, this tale is not based on any real life, or combination of lives.

Rating: R.
Profanity: Obvious, unprinted.
Romance: None.
Sex: Off the page. Acknowledged. Violent acts acknowledged as well.
Violence: Alluded to. Court case that covers child sex abuse victims.
Originally written: 2010.

POV Characters: Mistie Jolin
Length: 80,000 words

Amazon (ASIN: B06WVBZVQB) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Amazon Print: https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309622 and https://www.amazon.com/Stork-Mis-Delivered-Twice-April-Brown/dp/1974309614/

Apple I books (1270998922) http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270998922

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Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489630

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Kobo (1230001546507 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/the-stork-mis-delivered-twice

Smashwords (co-publishes at): (9781370698851) https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/704039

Soon to be available on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

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Bending the Bars – Abuse Survival

Bending the Bars

 

Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult

Anne’s story need never be documented.
If existing law had protected Anne, and Ruby’s children, Ruby’s Law would never have been written.
Jo and Lennie begin a 20 year trek to find and rescue Anne from her abusive husband.
They rescue hundreds of other women, children, and the occasional man.
Often, the survivors have known no other life.
They have been conditioned to believe abuse is normal.
The search for Anne continues. Their hope begins to fade.
Bodies burn out.
More stations open.
More people try to escape. Stuck in the legal limbo land, where they are safe from abusers, while surrounded by other survivors, with little hope of full recovery. Few make it out to live beyond the bars that Ruby’s Law has given to protect them. It simply isn’t safe. Abusers wait out there. Often barely beyond the fence.
Can the New Underground Railroad Project stay on track to train abuse survivors to live abuse-free on their own?
Or will they remain behind the legal bars that protect them from their abusers?

Other notes:

Bending the Bars is a journey though recognition of abusers, and survivors in the United States. It recognizes how the laws protect the abusers at the expense of the abused. It also conveys reasons why so many stay when they are abused. They often feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. If they have children, they have to leave without them, potentially condemning their children to worse than if they stay. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. Ruby’s Law is a weak start to grant safety to survivors, and a place to bend the bars of abuse, without breaking the survivors.

Author’s Note:
Book Title: Bending the Bars
Genre: Abuse Survival
Age: Adult
Rating: PG 16
Profanity: None
Romance: In passing.
Sex: Mentioned.
Violence: Some. Car chases, shootings, survivors of abuse

POV Characters: Jo Forester, Lennie Darendale
Length: 80,000 words

Apple I books http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1270997398

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Bookshare https://www.bookshare.org/browse/book/1489631

Kobo (1230001546293 ) https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/bending-the-bars-1

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34304993-bending-the-bars

Soon to be on Google Play!

#Abusesurvival, #dysfunctionalfamilies, #religiousabuse, #abusesurvivorlaw, #abusesurvivorrecovery, #co-dependency, #self-esteem, #BodyLanguage&NonverbalCommunication, #PTSD, #crime, #legalsystem, #domesticviolence

Human Rights – Right to Community

This list of human rights is the one that should be simplest.  Those rights you want for yourself, you should also want for your neighbor.  However, these seem to be the most contentious.  People want these rights for themselves, and yet they want to dictate to others what they can, or cannot do.  While you may be able to request that a person not do (or say) certain things within your home, or business, it hurts everyone to do so.  There may be certain reasons, such as PTSD, that may okay caution in some rare cases.

Freedom to:
Own property
Religion
Express thoughts and ideas
Privacy of home and correspondence
Economic security
A job, a fair wage, and a trade union
Travel
Marriage and Family (including adoption)
Education
Create Intellectual Property
Community Responsibility

Every person should have the freedom to own property.  For some reason, our society counts success as owning objects.  When  whole segments of the population are not allowed to own anything, they will never be viewed as successful, which leads to a magnitude of problems.

Religion.  A contentious subject.  As it should be.  It is private and personal, and should remain that way.  No one needs to know, unless they live in your home.  Or, their religious choices hurt or kill others.  Then, those people fall back into the legal human rights category.

All humans, regardless of age, gender, or background should be able to express their thoughts and ideas in mediums they choose, as long as they do not hurt others.  These thoughts and ideas do have consequences.

All humans should have the right to privacy, both in the home, and in public.  Their health, and other records should never be available to the public.  Very rare instances should any of these documents be made available to doctors, police departments, and employers.

Although, it could benefit deafblind individuals for police to know there are deafblind individuals in the community.  They sometimes need specialized to training to realize that a deafblind person may not hear them, or recognize that a police office is there.  Some deafblind individuals have died in recent years due to being shot by police who were unaware that a person walking with a cane was not a threat, and had no way of knowing they were there and yelling at them.

All humans should have the right to live with, and financially support the people they choose to.  Whether as a spouse, or a friend.  This support should be extended to include insurance (until national payer exists) housing, ad hospital visitation.

All people should have the right to adopt a child if they are deemed a fit parent.  Some parents may work outside the home, while others, who remain at home, can care for the children who need a full time parent.

All humans should have a right to fair and safe employment.  This includes fair wages, equal wages -regardless of gender, age, or ability.  In this case, ability applies to accommodating visual, hearing, and physical disabilities, not the ability to do the job.

All humans should have the right to have vacation.  Time to read, rest, and be around family.  Working every waking moment for 30 or 40 years simply leads to disability, and a wasted life.

All humans should have access to health.  Both healthcare, and real health opportunities.  Healthcare is vital to well being.  Without time off, and short enough work days, people cannot eat or exercise properly to maintain their health.

All people should have a right to an education.  Education stretches the mind and keeps the person busy and happy.  It helps people relate, understand, and empathize with others, regardless of their situation.

An often forgotten component of human rights is the concept of community responsibility.  If a community normalizes abusers, they should not be surprised at the results – damaged community members who cannot fill the roles society expects them to.  If you see someone abusing another, it’s important to stand up for them.  It is the only way abuse will stop.  These survivors need to know they have community support.  Even if that support is simply agreement, and preventing of victimization.

The list goes on and on.  Basically, if you feel you have a certain right, then so does the person next to you.

#Humanrights #womensrights #health #safety #life

Secrets will haunt Mistie, and hundreds of others till death. #PTSD #abusesurvivor The Stork Mis-Delivered – Twice https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WVBZVQB

Survivors feel there is no escape. Often, there isn’t. Legally. It shouldn’t be that way. #codependency #BendingtheBars https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06VVNW5XR

Snowflake versus Grasshopper

Snowflakes. Sweet gentle, delicate, lacy things. No two are identical.

They value diversity. They clump together to create intricate designs. As they slip and slide from the sky, they reach out to help one another. To lift each other up. Occasionally, one flake may lose a piece of itself while helping another. They join, and rejoin to create beauty in the eyes of people who are alive.
Children lick the snowflakes from the sky with pure delight. They sled and play in them.
Adults, those who are living and breathing with nature, enjoy their beauty from afar. They sip hot coffee, or hot chocolate, from the warmth of a fire. They know, the more snow, the more flowers spring will bring.
Adults who ignore nature, or see it as beast to be tamed, fret, argue, and scream at snow, as they beat it into water, slosh it way, and drive over it, abandoning their family time for isolated buildings far away.
Occasionally, the wind will roar. Snow will form a blizzard. It will cover everything. While it may look on the surface as if it is a uniform texture and coverage, it rarely is. It has humps, bumps, hills, dales, valleys, and even gentle streams lurking underneath.
When it melts away in spring, the beauty revealed makes all want to enjoy it. Streams and rivers form.  The ground is softened, ready to grow. Farmers know deep snows will bring forth abundant crops. Many regions depend on the deep snows for drinking and irrigation water.

Without the blizzards, droughts haunt the breadbasket of our country.

Like snowflakes, grasshoppers are pretty and fun for children to chase. When they occur a few at a time. Most are harmless. They simply eat a little grass and grain, and become the snacks of spiders and birds.
Once, our nation was covered in these tiny creatures. Now, they are rare.
Like snowflakes, grasshoppers can create storms on the wind, called locust swarms. Although locust swarms were once common in the US, they have been gone for almost 100 years.
When grasshoppers combine to swarm, they don’t do so to lift each other up. They gorge. They become larger. More extreme. Identical. Giant grasshoppers, all teeth and stomach. They fly together. They eat everything in sight. They are so ravenous, their tiny jaws will bite the flesh of human and animals as they engulf crops, grass, leaves, and any green thing in their path.
They leave destruction and death in their wake. Destroyed crops may extend for hundreds of miles in either direction. Before the days of the engine, entire villages would be wiped out, as grasshoppers ate the crops the people and animals depended on for winter.
However, unlike snowflakes who build each other up, locusts tear each other down. They abandon their weak, their wounded, the legless, and the wingless, to die a miserable death eating the last few hidden bits of grain in a location they devastated.
Not only that, locusts lay eggs in the millions that will hatch and eat next year’s crop as it rises out of the ground. It may take decades for a region to recover it’s flora and fauna from a locust storm.

Are you a snowflake lifting others up? Valuing and creating more diversity? Creating beauty in the now, and furthering life after you melt in the warmth of spring?

Or a locust, eating everything in sight, and leaving the once fertile fields barren of life?

Stockholm Syndrome.

Today’s post is about Stockholm Syndrome.
A devastating syndrome, in which victims sympathize with their abusers.
This was first recognized and studied in victims of bank robberies and such types of events.
It was later categorized to explain why victims stay with their abusers, and refuse to leave.
We see the symptoms of it everyday. They have been increasing in the last two decades. Someone will be talking, and they will go into a trance-like state, say something nonsensical, or self-abusing, and then shake their head and return to semi-normal conversation.
Sometimes these victims, mostly women, escape their abusers for a time. It may be months. It may be years. Usually, some well meaning other victim, often a family member, or friend, pulls them back into the pack of abused women.
This is mostly about women. Though, it can occur in anyone, particularly any minority or disabled person, whom society values as less than a full person.
One way to recognize this, is someone who does not value themselves. Who does not respect themselves. Who does not recognize their value. One who does not respect the value of others, by pushing their abusers values onto those in their care.
If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t respect others. Women should be valued. Their value is worth more than any paper money can replace.
Sadly, too many see themselves as less than.
That is extremely mentally and physically unhealthy.
As a society we need healthy people of all ages, regardless of gender and ethnicity. People who value themselves enough to want to live to help others.
Without self-value, there is no room for valuing others.
Without self-care, they is no ability to care for others.
Without self-worth, there is no ability to see the difference anyone can make.
Without self-trust, there is no trust in others.
With no self-respect, one cannot respect others.

Landfills

One subject that is covered in nearly the entire Trails Series is Landfills.
Landfills are the bane of the last 120 years.
Before then, our ancestors used and re-used items they created until they were no longer useful. Then, they served as fuel.
In some areas, particularly along coastlines, a garbage might develop – containing the discarded shells fish. Anthropologists enjoy studying them.
Did you know that a newspaper printed and placed in a landfill over 100 years ago, would be as readable as it was when placed there?
The descendants of today will have to mine our landfills. they will have to find a way to safely dispose of things such as the billions of batteries, electronics, broken light bulbs, and other items that leak toxins into our drinking water.
They have been left a sordid chore.
What to do with all the toxins? How to safely dispose of them so that they can never again harm the environment, or a living being?

Healthcare

Today’s post is about healthcare.
There was an interesting infographic about Britain’s healthcare system versus the US healthcare system.
The first part covered the percentage of people covered and uncovered.
We have almost as 8.6% of people not covered by healthcare in the US. Of those covered, a large percent have been without healthcare, and preventative medicine for years, decades, possibly their entire lives.
In other words, they have not had the necessary healthcare to become, or remain healthy.
The average yearly cost for health care in Britain is $2,008 per person.
In the US it is over $5,000 per person per year.
If we switched to universal healthcare today – it would still take 80 years to have a healthy population.
First – we would have punish abusive employers. Employers who force employees to work more hours than is healthwise safe. If you work more than five hours a day, you aren’t getting healthy meals, or a healthy amount of sleep. It isn’t possible.
Also, days off. Employers are known for forcing employees to work ten day shifts without a day off. Or overtime pay.
No amount of overtime pay is worth what working more than four to five days a week will do to your body.
We know what we need to do to be healthier.
We need to be able to do those life saving activities. Sleep, eat, exercise, interact with family and friends.
As it is – it will take four full generations before those who are alive will have had access to preventative healthcare, proper diagnosis, and a chance to live a healthy lifestyle. If we fixed the laws today.
Of course, without enough medical staff, it still won’t work. Most medical staff work double shifts. And burn out too fast.
There is also another serious issue. One some people mention when they hear about universal healthcare. The time it takes to get an appointment.
If you talk to people that live in those countries – if someone is sick, they have instant care. Just like we do.
However, in only a few instances do they have the access as unbalanced as we do.
A boy child will be seen instantly by a doctor if he even has sniffle.
A girl child – in a day or two.
An adult male – same day, or next day.
A woman with children – within a week.
A woman without children – doctor’s offices don’t even know when the next available appointment is for someone as unwanted as that.
Our healthcare system is seriously broken.
It needs fixing. For the people who will be born in 60 years. Those who are alive today will continue to bear the costs of the last 80 years without adequate access to healthcare.
Before that, if there was a doctor, they took care of any patients that came to them, if it was possible.
We’ve seen what 80 years of healthcare for only the rich, and those with high paying jobs can do to the health of our nation.
High paying jobs are mostly gone.
So is our health.